i was wondering why it was that you wouldn't want to be at each of the appointments? is a work commitment thing, or a scheduling thing.

i find that interesting, because most people i know going through the surrogacy process want to be at every last appointment, so that they can know how their child is doing. i can understand her wanting you to be there, to further signify to her that this is not her child, but rather a blessing she is giving to the both of you.

not to mention, she may find it uncomfortable for her to go alone, since this will not be her baby.

i'm not trying to lecture, and i pray that you won't be offended, but know that once the child is here, you will have to go to FAR more appointments.

i think that moving closer for the last month is a bit unreasonable, but finding the time to go to her prenatal appointments is something you two should want to do for yourselves, and will serve as a wonderful bonding time for you to get to know the baby before it is born. i really hope you guys will reconsider. even if its one of you going to the appointments, i think that would mean a lot.

once again, not trying to lecture, but just my two cents. please don't be offended!! please...