I am a lesbian and a foster parent. I was also a foster child when I was a kid. So I know more about the system than anyone person should. It soulds to me that because you have a disbled partner that they don't want to put any more on you than you already have. They want to make sure that the children that are placed are taken care of and are not put in to a situation where they are unintentionally neg. I don't know what state you are in, but if you and your partner are registared domestic partners, than I am guessing that it is not because you are Leasbian. My partner and I have actually become the experts on gay and Lesbian childern some how in our area. The system really doesn't care what you do in your bedroom they just care if the children are going to get the best possible care.