We have both been pregnant and given birth and I went first. This 2nd time around, I knew exactly what my wife was going through and could validate her thoughts and feelings. I went to all her visits and made my self as much a part of the process as I could. I actually enjoyed (very much) not having to go through the aches and pains of the pregnancy (or the c-section at the end) and am planning to let her have our 3rd child even though I had planned all along to do it again.