I am the biological mother of my 3 yr old son. My ex-parnter has a 12 yr old daughter from a hetero relationship. I have raised her daughter since she was 3 and even at that time my ex was too busy to be around much.When we decided to have another it was a joint agreement, but I did have hesitation about the second-parent adoption and I should have listened to my inner voice. For the last 3 yrs (since he was born) we have not had any common grounds. One day she told me she cheated on me and I asked her to stay but she said "no" and moved into an apartment in 2 wks which I found out later she has been on the waiting list for a month. "High and dry" she left me and my child. One day my son came home and ma and sissy were gone, isnt that nice? Now she is fighting me for custody. We went to mediation and the things she through across the table were just rediculous and unbelieveable. Obviously she is all about money. The most that was mentioned was the sell of the house, which I am not selling. He has many friends on our street and in his best interest I plan to stay. It just sucks that "I" the biological mother even has to go through this. She wont agree to standard visitation which she is getting and even more because she wanted split custody so she didnt have to pay child support--how ridiculous is that? Of course in court she will make it sound like I am the bad parent but when the facts come out it should be all about who took care of the kids, right? I was there every night for those kids not knowing when and where my ex was, I stuck it out! I am now in a huge 2 story house with a huge mortgage, no child support, and now she refuses to pay his school, or take him to school, so apparently she is trying to jeopardize my job too, but that wont happen. So needless to say I had to take out my whole 401k to fight for my own son, how sad! Especially when it is against someone all about money. I dont doubt her love for him, but he has always just been a prize for her to show. I should be sole parent and decide when he should see her, he tells me he doesnt even want to see her and that breaks my heart because I have to let him go with her right now during all of this, but it scares me to death. He is my blood, pride, and joy, he is my life! I should be hearing from my attorney this week and lets hope for the best.
peace,
Sheri