Babies BIrth Certificate

Submitted by Adams-Rae on Tue, 04/15/2008 - 1:54pm

My partner and I are starting the process of haveing our first child. We are doing a home insemination with a unknown donor sperm from a bank. She is going to carry the first baby and we are concerned about my name being on the birth certificate. We live in central FL. We understand that FL will not allow us to do a second parent adoption, so what are some other options? We are willing to have the baby in a different state or do whatever we have to, to insure we both are on the birth certificate. PLEASE HELP!!!

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my partner and i had our

Submitted by mommyzrus917 on Tue, 04/15/2008 - 2:45pm.

my partner and i had our first child in NY state and as far as i know we were both not allowed to be listed on the birth certificate. however i have read a couple of other stories with two fathers being on there. im sorry i oculdnt help you but if you find out another way of going about it could you blog the info i would love the information and im sure many others would as well!! good luck with your baby
~*Tracy & Crystalyn*~

we had our baby

Submitted by anonymous on Wed, 04/30/2008 - 12:57am.

my partner and i had our baby in San Francisco. his birth certificate has both of our names on it. i am listed as the father since she was the one who carried the baby. even with my name on the birth certificate we were still afraid that we might have a problem if he were to get ill in other states. so we applied for me to legally adopt him. we had an social worker to come and visit and check my background. in 6 plus months i became his adopted parent. we went to court and got sworn in and sign papers. Now I carry a copy of his birth certificate and the legal paper that shows i am his legal parent in my wallet. it is scary and we did everything to try to protect him and us. we started to write our will too.

did you both use a known or

Submitted by anonymous on Mon, 03/23/2009 - 6:14pm.

did you both use a known or unknown donor? my partner and I are legally married in CA and are registered domestic partners. We would like to use a friend's sperm but will using a known donor impede the use of her name on the birth certificate! Please Help!
thanls

Danger of Known Donor

Submitted by kpearsonb on Sun, 12/06/2009 - 5:15pm.

I understand completely the desire to use a donor who is known and to have his involvement as an "uncle" or "Godfather" in the child's life, but I caution against this. The law is unchartered in this new area of family arrangements, and unsuspecting women could find themselves in an emotionally and financially costly court battle if the donor decides he wants more, despite any signed agreements. Also, there are unscrupulous men who will use a woman as an unwitting surrogate to gain a child for their own purposes. It has happened, and the one who suffers most is the child.

2 moms on birth certificate

Submitted by my2moms on Sat, 05/03/2008 - 4:23pm.

Our first daughter was born in MA where we are legally married and we are both on her birth certificate. One as mother and one as second parent. With our newest daughter, she was born in ME where we are "roomates" so right now only the biological mom is on the birth certificate and the father space in blank. But we are in the process of a 2nd parent adoption (which have been legal here for less than a year) and then we will both be on the birth certificate!

And also. . .

Submitted by anonymous on Fri, 05/09/2008 - 4:53pm.

For anyone else that may be reading this and have the same question. . .the state of TN will allow both mothers to be on the birth certificate as well. . .I'm in AL and when I had a partner the plan was to go to TN for labor and delivery so both our names would be on the certificate. . .

And also. . .

Submitted by Brwn.Skn on Fri, 05/09/2008 - 4:55pm.

The state of Tennessee will allow two mothers or two fathers to be on the birth certificate. . .when I had a partner our plan was to have a scheduled C-section or induction in TN because we live in AL. . .but now that I have no partner. . I don't have to do that extra traveling. . .Good Luck!

2nd parent adoptions

Submitted by anonymous on Mon, 05/26/2008 - 7:22pm.

My partner and I have both of our names listed on our children's birth certificates in PA. Thankfully, we live in Philadelphia whose adoption process for lesbian and gay parents is not as harrowing as other counties in the state. The birth certificate reads "Parent" and "Parent"...I would highly recommend if you are a partner to someone who is going to give birth -OR- is planning to adopt a child as a "single person" and if you want to be legally bound to your child to check your state to see if they allow 2nd parent adoptions!!!