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In reaction to the NY Times Sunday article about Building a Baby, With Few Ground Rules, the head of one of the oldest surrogacy agencies in the country calls for renewed efforts to set these ground rules, but also warns against losing sight of the amazing high levels of safety and success achieved by reputable professionals today.
John Weltman [pictured], Circle Surrogacy’s president and a nationally recognized expert in the field of reproductive law, has been advocating for mandatory guidelines for surrogate parenting agencies and fertility centers long before the publication of the recent New York Times article. But in the aftermath of the article Weltman expresses concern that instead of helping raise awareness of the need for regulation, the article may damage a profession that has "the highest success rate worldwide in producing biologically related children for infertile and gay couples, with no legal headaches for the parents and a joyous and memorable experience for the surrogates and donors involved.
“If the Times’ point is to raise consciousness to such a degree that professional organizations, such as the American Bar Association, the American Society of Reproductive Medicine, and legal, medical and social work boards throughout the country begin to adopt standards that protect children, surrogates, donors and intended parents, then good for them,” said Weltman. “But I fear that, along the way, the author has created a story that is so one sided that it makes it appear as though the majority of cases in third party reproduction are handled this badly.”
Weltman has expressed disappointment that the article focused on three of possibly only a handful of surrogacy horror stories in recent years, without pointing out that in thousands of successful journeys these pitfalls were effectively avoided.
“The author has chosen stories from three states with laws that expressly prohibit or severely restrict surrogacy, which reputable agencies avoid,” said Weltman. “She has further chosen for her focus situations in which intended parents were not screened, or were over age limits that most clinics and agencies set. Finally, she has focused on surrogates who either had critical information withheld from them by the parents, or who should never have been accepted as surrogates due to their lack of experience in carrying a pregnancy to term.”
John Weltman points out that in any of the alternative paths to parenting it would not be difficult to find stories that would equally shock – whether it be in adoption, foster care, or reproductive medicine. “The fact is that as long as intended parents seek the help of reputable agencies, surrogacy is today one of the safest methods to have a child,” says Weltman. “However, I believe that the future of surrogacy is ultimately to become a licensed profession" he said. “Surrogacy should become more like adoption in the sense that agencies should be licensed and adhere to certain requirements.” Already similar to adoption agencies, Circle Surrogacy screens and provides counseling to both parents and surrogates, and "our staff provides emotional and practical support throughout the whole process."
Since 1995, Circle Surrogacy has helped bring to the world nearly 300 babies, with unmatched success rates of close to 100% in clients becoming parents through egg donor surrogacy. Its dedicated staff of professionals is made up of lawyers, social workers, parents through surrogacy, and former surrogates and egg donors. Circle Surrogacy provides a choice of specialized clinics at locations throughout the country, a large selection of egg donors, swift matching with carefully screened surrogates, and a variety of flexible programs and financial options to suit its clients' unique family choices.
John Weltman, owner, founder is a Yale graduate and a nationally recognized expert in the field of reproductive law, including surrogacy and gay parenting.
Comments
As A Surrogate Mom I Agree Wholeheartedly
As a gestational surrogate mom to a baby girl, I couldn't agree more with your assessment of that New York Times article. The vast majority of surrogacy journeys are successful as mine was, and it was so disappointing to read an article in The New York Times of all places that seemed so bent on only presenting the rare cases where it all goes wrong, casting such a negative and sensationalist light on a truly amazing opportunity. Having said that, I do agree that there should be more regulation. Surrogacy can and should be such an amazing and joyful journey for the surrogate and the intended parents, and it is high time professional standards are put in place to ensure its successful future and minimize mishaps and heartache. Being a surrogate mom for my cousin and his wife was one of the most fulfilling experiences of my life, and they are now a happy family because of the opportunity surrogacy offered. Our journey is a beautiful story for which we are all very grateful. (Check it out if you want at http://www.deliveringhopebook.com).
Surrogacy Done Right -- It's The Norm
My wife is a Gestational Carrier for a lesbian couple in New Jersey, and we were horrified by the NYTimes article on Sunday. We're happy to report that our own surrogacy journey has been a tremendous experience for all parties, and the vast majority of these arrangements go the same route. Like everything else in life, there is a right way to do things -- and usually many wrong ways. We and our Intended Parents did all our homework, dotted i's and crossed t's every step of the way. It was a thorough and rigorous vetting process for us both -- exactly how it should be for the intention of facilitating the miracle of life. I can only voice encouragement to all others that are considering this route -- it can be done, and done well! Good luck and if you're interested in a man's take on all this: http://www.guestwomb.com