lesbian parents

Once their letters of reference are secured and their home study paperwork is complete, straight and gay would-be adoptive parents face one of the most stressful events of their adoption home study—the dreaded visit or series of visits by a social worker to their home. This is a high-stakes event. This social worker has the power to advance your dreams or stop them dead. Don’t be placated by anyone who tells you, “Relax. Just be yourself.” When has that ever worked for anyone? Here are some suggestions.

Traditionally, the push present is a gift new fathers bestow upon the woman who has successfully completed the delivery of “his” child. Technically this refers to vaginal births although push presents are also rewarded to women who have endured caesarean sections.

Today, push presents can go to anyone with the pain tolerance and fortitude to knock out a baby – whether they’re straight or gay. Gay men should definitely get something nice for their surrogate. But whether or not the partner of a lesbian should expect one depends on the couple’s complex relationship dynamics. Review the chart below to see if you need to go shopping or start dropping hints about what you expect when the big day comes.