{"id":2313,"date":"2008-10-30T14:09:44","date_gmt":"2008-10-30T14:09:44","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"2019-06-10T11:14:59","modified_gmt":"2019-06-10T15:14:59","slug":"be-a-happy-gay-family","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/proudparenting.com\/2008\/10\/be-a-happy-gay-family\/","title":{"rendered":"Be a happy gay family"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Dr. Kim Bergman, founder of <strong>Fertility Counseling Services, Inc.<\/strong>, writes about setting a healthy foundation for your family. She stresses that the story we tell our children is going to be their truth regardless of outside messages they might hear.<\/p>\n<p>Kim writes about shaping our world in <a href=\"https:\/\/proudparenting.com\/uncategorized\/how-to-talk-about-your-family-presented-by-dr-kim-bergman-of-growing-generations\/\">a ProudParenting.com blog post<\/a>, &#8220;What you have to know at the outset is that your baby is going to be born to you not knowing anything about the world. 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