{"id":4091,"date":"2009-09-14T10:51:03","date_gmt":"2009-09-14T10:51:03","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"2009-09-14T10:51:03","modified_gmt":"2009-09-14T10:51:03","slug":"straight-spouses-advocate-same-sex-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/proudparenting.com\/2009\/09\/straight-spouses-advocate-same-sex-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Straight spouses advocate same-sex marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;Here is my situation, if gays and lesbians were more accepted, I wouldn&#8217;t have married a closeted lesbian.&#8221;  This comes from a 47-year-old chemical engineer in the San Francisco Bay Area.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.sacbee.com\/827\/story\/2181033.html\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>The Sacramento Bee<\/strong> reports<\/a>:  Of all the constituency groups that advocate allowing gay couples to wed, none is perhaps more counterintuitive than the heterosexual spouses of gay men and lesbians.<\/p>\n<p>Yet as the issue plays out in the nation&#8217;s courtrooms and statehouses, some of the wives and husbands who learned that their partner was attracted to other women or men are making their voices known in the often-polarized debate.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;We are the unacknowledged victims of the victims of homophobia,&#8221; said Amity Pierce Buxton, the founder of the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.straightspouse.org\/home.php\" target=\"_blank\">Straight Spouse Network<\/a>, a New Jersey-based support and advocacy group with 52 U.S. chapters. &#8220;When gays and lesbians feel they have to get married to be accepted and to have kids, that hurts not only gays and lesbians, but straight spouses and kids.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>For Carolyn Sega Lowengart, 61, who lives outside Washington, D.C., it came after 31 years of marriage. 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